Some recent realisations I've had on professional failure after yes, I copped what I felt was a pretty big one in my military career. I found them useful as personal reflections - what do you think? 1. It hurts. Even when it's expected, there's still a little sting of surprise and pain. 2. It doesn't matter. In the scheme of things, whatever it is can be tried again, or worked around, or moved past. It's just not a big deal and getting upset doesn't change anything, so don't do it. 3. Nobody thinks less of you. Even those nearest and dearest - especially those nearest and dearest - love you no matter what. Basically everyone is too busy with their own lives to be worried about yours anyway.